There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. Pussies come in all different sizes, colors and shapes. Some are tucked inside and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nestled in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Others are shaved clean for that deliciously soft and sensual look.

Appreciate your woman's unique qualities and tell her what makes her special. 

Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during lovemaking. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to give her a lasting impression and get her to BEG you for more. Hearing that you find her hot and sexy and that she smells good and tastes good while you are petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, makes her feel incredibly vulnerable to you, and can make a huge difference to her entire dynamic with you.

A smart man knows how to be sincere and to a woman, this is the difference between being fucked, and being made love to. An intimate man is much more arousing than one who doesn't know the art of being nurturing.

Most women are shy and insecure about their bodies. Even if you've got the world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she's going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it's beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her how soft she is, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn't it?

Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn't mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin. 

Spreading a woman's pussy apart is incredibly intimate. She knows you are seeing her most private parts and this turns her on. Being totally exposed, helps her to show you how much she trusts you. 

Whenever you touch a woman's pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn't have any juices of its own and is extremely sensitive.Your finger will stick to it if it's dry and that hurts. But you don't want to touch her clit right away anyway. You have to work up to that.

Her anticipation of you licking it can be a great way to build her up to arousal. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled. Approach her pussy slowly. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit.

When you gently pull the hood down to expose her budding clitoris, it's like a little baby penis, red and wanton. It is very sensitive to touch, sucking, and blowing on. 

Experiment with what makes her moan. She will let you know when you are hurting her. She would rather you explored her sensitivities by going too far, rather than being too gentle and ineffective.

Many women use vibrators or masturbate a lot with their finger, so their clits might be insensitive. Where you will find some women are very sensitive to a gentle touch, others might need a more wild, animalistic approach.

You can ask your woman which she prefers and proceed accordingly. Women, even
more so than men, love to be teased. Teasing, by avoiding the contact with the clit for a long time, can send a woman into a frenzy once you finally DO make that magic contact.

The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, and make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, and then float away. Make her anticipate it. 

Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her.

After you've done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she's straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her, gently, then harder.

Now use your fingers to gently separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of folds. Gently spread her legs more with your hands.

Everything you do with a woman you're about to eat must be done tenderly. Tongue-fuck her. This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Use your chin as well. Tongue her from the bottom of the slit, deeply into her pussy, and bring the chin through the path as well

If you have a day's worth of growth on your chin, this sandpaper effect feels wonderful on an aroused clitoris.You will notice her screams and moans when you complete the path by rubbing your chin firmly over the clit (rather like licking an ice cream cone).

Bald men can even rub their heads firmly up and down the area to further excite her and give a unique and rewarding experience.

Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it's covering. If so, lick it. If you can't see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up to the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience its presence. But even if you can't feel the tiny pearl, you can make it swell by licking the skin that covers it.

Lick hard now and press into her skin. Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder or her back to arch.

Once this happens, you had better be willing to go the distance.

When you sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady's face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. Suck the whole labia (inner lips, sometimes a big flap) into your mouth while tonguing it.

If she likes it, suck even harder. You can even bite down on the lips and clit a bit to heighten her sensations. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what she'll be saying  too: 'Don't stop. Don't ever stop!'

There's a reason for that; most men stop  too soon. She is letting you know that this action is what it is going to take to get her over the edge. It takes the same motion over and over again  to get her to the crescendo that you are trying to achieve. More
experienced gobblers know to continue doing the same motion until she cums. 

There's another thing you can do to intensify your woman's pleasure. You can finger-fuck her or use a dildo while she's enjoying your clit-licking talents, before, during or after. She'll really like it.

In addition to the  erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against during penetration.

Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three are too wide to get deep enough. Make sure they're wet so you don't irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing. She'll let you know what to do.

If you're sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she's getting high on this. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms.

Each woman is unique. You may have one whose nipples get hard when she's excited or only when she's having an  orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive lover.

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her pussy.

If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now. If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this way.

A woman stays excited for a full hour after she's had an orgasm.

A more advanced technique that comes with experience, is when you are fucking 
her doggie style and you pull out, and get down and devour her pussy from that angle. The sensations she feels with this technique make the difference between a good lover and a sensational lover.

A man who is about to cum while fucking doggie style, but who pulls out because he knows his partner is not yet ready to join him in cumming together, can make a wonderful offering by using this trick to get her more aroused. Some women can't cum in this position because they don't have the clitoral stimulation that they need.
especially if the man has a smaller penis, and does not quite rub her g-spot enough to make her cum.

Of the women I have asked if a man has ever done this, the one's who have were totally delighted, and said it was rare but that they wished all men would do it.

The last advice I have for you is this: After you've made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she's ever had, don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she has come all the way down.

A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex. Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it's what you make it.

Take your time,  practice often, and pay attention to your lover's signals, and most of
all, enjoy yourself and your woman.

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